Natural Chemicals

There have been significant gains in research regarding the effects that the natural chemicals our brain produces and releases into our body when it comes to our emotions. If you follow Dr. Joe Dispenza’s work, his books Becoming Supernatural and Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself go in great detail on how the human mind body connection works so beautifully in tandem. So it’s normal and our right to feel happy and joy on a daily basis. And it’s alright to feel guilty, boredom, hate and impatience too, but it’s not normal to feel that way for an extended period of time. Constantly feeling bad takes a huge toll on our bodies. It’s amazing that we humans have the capacity to feel such a broad range of feelings but sitting with these negative feelings is like having an inconsiderate house guest over and not sure when they will ever leave. Did you know that our brain releases a natural chemical cocktail into the body every time an emotion is felt? Good or bad? It travels throughout the body for a couple of hours? Kind of like an IV drip coming from our brain. This makes sense because when we’re hurt or catch a cold, it does the same thing by releasing our very own chemical cocktail of antibodies to heal a wound or fight infections. Chemicals specific to our own body.

When you really take the time to think about this, feeling constant anger towards someone or worrying about something is poisoning our system. Why would we do this to ourselves? It’s because we don’t know any better, sometimes feeling anger in a situation that we have no control over feels really good. Our brain wants to stay there in that feeling because it keeps us safe or we need a surge of some sort of stimulation to keep our emotional addictions thriving. Our brain wants to solve logical problems, as well as keep our body functioning and memory storage. Our ego wants to justify why we are right and feel validation rather than take the higher road and let go. When we stay in the state of worry for more than a few hours, days, weeks, months we are putting our bodies through chronic stress every time we start thinking about that certain someone or situation that puts us there.

We experience two types of stress with the body. Positive stress or eustress and negative stress or distress. Eustress is short term, like speaking in front of a crowd or planning a wedding. This is the good kind of stress because our bodies return to our natural self, feeling balanced and possibly even empowered once the situation is over with. Distress is chronic or continuous, experiencing worry or sadness because of a death in the family. These longer term stresses lead to disease, that are possibly incurable. As a side note: I’m not telling you that you shouldn’t take the time to grieve for someone you care for. You take as long as you need. I just don’t want you to dwell in sadness just to dwell in it, that is where things gets serious.

I’m hoping now that you know spending time in negative emotions can truly do damage to our body, looking at it from this perspective may get you to manage your emotions better? That who you spend your anger on won’t be the guy who cut you off in traffic because he is not worth getting ill over. I could tell you to meditate or breath mindfully but this is temporary relief. Getting to know a little more about the reasoning behind all of this gives you the power to make choices on managing your emotions. Striving to be happy is healthy! Take care of yourself.

Winner vs. Average

These last few days I’ve been thinking about how someone becomes successful at life? I’m not talking about how society measures a persons success by how much money someone makes, their education, their IQ, who they know and how many friends they have, what their career is, their material collections, where they’ve been, this all seems insignificant. After all, these are just some of the effects that come into one’s life when practicing this mindset. I’m talking about the things people do on a regular basis to be great at life! We live in a world where we are so attached to our possessions, we put meanings on things that are not important or looking for a quick fix to feel better than the current state we are in. So I made a list of the two traits that differ between a winner’s mindset vs. average mindset. It’s good to see these qualities on paper. I’m sharing this with you not to make you feel bad about yourself, but to move you in a direction to succeed. By no means am I perfect, I’m guilty of having an average mind. I just don’t want to feel trapped there and I definitely do not want to be average. This list inspires me to take better action and make better choices. I hope it inspires you to do the same.

Please share any if I’ve missed. I’d love to hear more examples.

Winner’s MindsetAverage Mindset
DisciplinedSlave to emotions
ForgivingCritical/ Judgmental
PerseveranceProcrastination
Self masteryMotivation or will
Doesn’t let fear take overAfraid to fail
PersistanceLooking for that shiny object
In controlNeedy
Non attachment Attached to people, places, things, ideas
Sees the big pictureLooking for a quick fix
Life is a gameTakes life serious
Has clarity/ focusLots of distractions
VictoriousVictim
Sees wealth around themSees poverty and scarcity
GratefulThankless
Takes 100% responsibility of own life Blames everyone and makes excuses
Internal world shapes external worldExternal world shapes external world
Blessings in disguiseCaught on the details
Conscious -always aware Unconscious – forgetful, going through the motions
ProactiveReactive
Farming or cultivatingHunting or stalking
FascinatingShallow
Makes long term investmentsMakes short term investments for the reward
MeditationMasturbation
NaturalGimmick
Lives in the moment, excited for the futureLives in the past
Sustainable builds in pleasure
skills, builds business
reads a book
Lower life pleasures
coffee, drugs, stimulants, alcohol
binge watches tv

Affirmations

The discussion on why I think affirmations are so important to incorporate into your life is a tricky subject. After reading this, I’m hoping to get you on board with having a set of daily affirmations to read if you aren’t doing so already. I was in a place where I used to think affirmations were phony. When I heard others use affirmations, there seemed to be a disconnect, no substance behind them. Instead of coming from a place of feeling uplifted and confident, they sounded like good catch phrases that were meaningless. Flowery talk to cover up what was festering below the surface. That was until I looked at it from a different perspective. Before we get there, let’s go back a few weeks to catch up.

In this post we discussed mental diet, and how we are talking to ourselves on a daily basis. Do you talk kindly or do you scold and shame yourself like a mother speaks to a child when they are about to do something bad? we all hear that voice of our dear moms every now and then. Now, let’s think about this. There are 86,400 seconds in each day, how many of those seconds can you actually think a positive thought and try to hold that thought for at least 30 or even 60 of those seconds before that thought is turned around and upside down with self-doubt or you are on to your next thought? Try it! If you can hold positive thoughts, especially about yourself continuously, then I think your full of crap.

Think of times when you are the hardest on yourself. I will use the comparison example because that is a sure way to kill any dreams or aspirations you have for ourselves. Comparing ourselves to others is a sure way to take us down the emotional scale and lower our vibration or our state of consciousness feeling the emotion of insecurity. Looking at this scale, it drops us down into the red. You start out with a business idea but you immediately think that so-and-so makes more money than me, is smarter than me, has more education, is better at… You know the drill. As soon as you do this, you want to become awake or conscious that you’ve fallen into this trap. Next, you want to have your affirmations ready. Affirmations are personal to you and are required to be a form of fitted self-talk for when we face doubts and fears. These phrases are relatable and resonate with our own soul. We want to impress our subconscious mind in believing that the affirmations we are reciting is our truth. And we seem to do a better job of it when we are feeling good and flying high! We want to reprogram the subconscious mind and tell it what to think when we affirm. What are we reprogramming the mind from? Negative energy. It is true that someone is better, smarter or richer than us? No! What does that prove? Nothing! Those thoughts divert us from our goals and don’t serve us positively.

I write out affirmations in a notebook and on recipe cards. I change them up every few months. Whenever I hear one I like, I will jot it down, sit with it for a few days to reflect on it before I make sure it is worthy enough to be placed in my stock. I read these affirmations every morning before I start my day and again every night I marinate my brain with these phrases before I fall asleep. There are days I wake up and I know immediately that I need to work a little harder at keeping my thoughts on track.

If you take the time to find them, write them out and read them daily, I promise you that it will change your life. But you have to be consistent for at least 40 days. You may even notice changes in your mood or mental well-being rapidly, or things just working out easily to your advantage in just a day or so. I have affirmations that are related to health, wealth, love and career. You want to get so good at having these that doubts don’t even have time to creep into your daily life.

You can create your own but if you seem to have trouble coming up with any an idea for your own affirmations, you can find them in older books from new thought authors. There are also many terrific writers or yogis to name a few. Florence Scovel Shinn is one of my favorites when it comes to affirmations. She wrote a book called The Game of Life and How to Play it. Some of her phrases may seem a little dated because of the words that were used in the early 1900’s. Here are a few examples of my favorites that came across from others who inspired me that I would like to share that I have used in the past or am using now.

  • Today is going to be a great day! Every day I get better and better at what I do.
  • I always have great opportunities presented to me and that I take them.
  • I light up a room when I walk into it.
  • I am excited for the future!
  • I am healthy, strong and I love the muscles in my arms.
  • I ignore everything that does not serve me positively.
  • I easily communicate with everyone that I come in contact with. I find connections in many people. People know exactly what to say to me and I’m able to respond to them appropriately.
  • Everything I touch turns to gold. I always earn money easily.
  • I always get what I want.
  • I am able to focus on my vision. I attract people and circumstances that are in line with my vision.

So no more feel good catch phrases to cover up what was festering below the surface. When you start to go down that path of self doubt, you will be able to catch yourself quicker and rather than self-deprecate, you will uplift yourself. Still not on board with this whole thing? I get it, I wasn’t either. It seems to out there to try. It’s a small price to pay to feel empowered. It’s here when you are ready and when you take the time to invest in yourself, will see a difference in your feelings and your environment.

Reach out to me if you need help in creating some affirmation for yourself. I hope this helps you! Until next time!