“Have a Mind that is Open to Everything and Attached to Nothing.” Wayne Dyer
Do you want to know why most people make plans every year, especially around the new year to lose weight or to be “healthy” in eating better or being more active but fail within the first 3 to 6 months?
When you want to make a change, whatever that may be, there are a few components involved that you need to know. Making changes on motivation or will power alone will set you up for failure. You cannot read, talk or think yourself into being healthy, you have to do the work. This works for every goal you set, because how you do one thing is how you do all. First, you need to ask yourself, what is your readiness to change? How serious are you to start and stick with a program? Is the change for health reasons or to look and feel better? Do you see the benefits or are you skeptical? Do you think the change will work or do you think that you are the exception and there is no hope? Would you rather feel great daily and sleep well regularly or numb your feelings with quick fixes such as food, television, alcohol, etc.? Do love yourself enough to invest in you!? The investment right now is so much more fun than receiving that hospital bill 5 to 10 years from now. Second, there are 5 stages of change that everyone passes through to make that shift in that desired lifestyle. (See below.) Some people may never get out of stages 2 or 3 and linger there for the rest of their lives. Others may move back and forth between stages 3 and 4. Some move quickly thru the stages and can maintain it. While some people get to 4 and revert back to stage 2 a few weeks later. We all move at our own pace and we can’t expect the journey to be direct.
These 5 stages are:
- Precontemplation – no intention on making any change.
- Contemplation – thinking about making a change, weighing the pros & cons.
- Preparation – decided to change, by buying a membership or signing up for classes.
- Action – practicing the new behavior for at least six months. (This is the most challenging stage.)
- Maintenance – incorporated the behavior into their lifestyle for six months or more. Looking for support of professional to develop other behavior changes.
Can you figure out which stage you identify with in making that particular life change? Now that you see the science behind this process, are you able to make the connection as to why you might be stagnant? Are you in the process of taking that next step but not sure how to get to that next level? Some things to consider: You may be overly ambitious and have goals that are a little out of reach? Or if you’ve started your process, have you underestimated the time and energy it takes in accomplishing them? Maybe you have too many lifestyle goals and need to narrow them down so you are not feeling overwhelmed. If you’d like to brainstorm on ways to fit realistic goals into your schedule that set you up for success, email me here and we can start collaborating on what a healthy lifestyle looks like for you and how it fits your into your values. Your time is important, finding the right goals and having fun along the way is the kind of mindset that is necessary to establish and approach this next chapter.
So now that you have these tools, I hope this makes your progress a little easier to know were you are and uncover any road blocks to stay focused on the end goal. If not, remember to reach out to a professional for motivation, support or even just to brainstorm ideas you never realized that you can benefit from. We are all going through changes and it’s great to normalize our barriers so we don’t have to feel isolated or face it alone and make it hard for ourselves.