Most people I speak with think they have a positive mindset but in reality, when they start talking, especially about themselves, they don’t talk highly of their character. We can’t help it because we’ve let our self-talk get off track and become careless for too long. By self-talk, I mean the endless stream of unspoken thoughts that enter and exit our mind all day every day and being able to guide them when doubts and fear slink in. These are thoughts you never speak out loud. Your thoughts determine your attitude. Your attitude about oneself shapes your behavior and the lifestyle that you live. Really think about this and ask yourself these questions: “How do I view the world?’ “How do I view myself in it?” “How do I see others and interact with them in this world?”
Have you ever considered a mental diet? This term was first coined by new thought authors, Neville Goddard and Emmet Fox. This is a lifestyle change and with any behavioral change, it’s going to take some persistence. Start by paying attention to how your feel so that you can habitually rewire your brain and choose positive thoughts over the negative. Redirect your thoughts. Self-soothing and constantly check in with yourself throughout the day in how you are feeling emotionally. And finally, allow yourself the time. This shift doesn’t happen overnight. It could take months. In the end, it’s worth the work to get back on track about how you think of yourself and feel fantastic! Let’s get yourself out of feeling like you’re “the victim mentality” to start the process.
Having a daily routine of reciting affirmations when first waking and right before falling asleep reinforces positive self-talk. Keeping a set of affirmations that ring true to you, I happen to keep affirmations on a set of notecards by my bed and continue to read them as I get ready for my day. We will talk about affirmations in the weeks to come. Don’t find affirmations that are empty, lacking or unconvincing. Pick ones that are believable, that really resonate with you, making you feel good. I also made the intention to change these affirmations out every 60 days so that I don’t get bored AND I can take feeling confident to the next level. Somedays if your mood is heavy, you have to be more diligent in the process of positive self-talk until you start to feel a shift within. Having affirmations are like complimenting yourself as you would complement your best friend. Some examples of affirmations I used when I first started were really generic. “Things always work out for me. I always get what I want. Today is going to be a good day. People like me and I like them.” As you grow into them, changing them up to: “People respect me and my time. Everything I touch turns to gold. Money comes to me easily. I light up a room when I walk in.”
Don’t forget that it’s easy to slip back into the pattern of negative self-talk and where you may especially become unaware is when driving, maybe even cooking a meal, taking a shower or possibly right before you fall asleep. Just be aware of these times so that you can catch it quickly and turn it around.
Comparatively speaking to a food diet, we have an endless amount of food to choose from to nourish our bodies but you don’t eat ice cream for breakfast, lunch and dinner. Just like we can have an endless bank of thoughts. So why would you allow yourself to have a fearful thought on repeat all day long? What if you hated ice cream but you still ate it for breakfast, lunch and dinner because someone told you that you had to. That would be equivalent to thinking a thought that someone told you were not smart because you didn’t go to college. Sure you could look for reasons to prove this statement true but are you going to actually believe something that dumb? Don’t get off track and put any meaning behind anyone else’s opinion. They are always speaking from their best interest, not yours.
To have a healthy mental diet you have to constantly stay focused in the beginning. Becoming aware of your self-talk can make you hyper focused and that is exhausting. Try to be somewhere in the middle of the two extremes and don’t beat yourself up. In fact, reward yourself when you do catch a negative thought creep in. Don’t become scared of them, just be aware. Look at the bigger picture, the goal is to make these positive changes stay. Take baby steps, don’t run it like a marathon. I believe in you! I know that you will no longer let doubts and fears take hold of you. When you begin to believe great things about yourself, you will invite so may amazing opportunities in to match that. And remember; redirect, redirect, redirect, redirect again.